Develop Charisma and Become More Likable
Developmental psychology represents the study of a subset of the full set of developmental processes that yield the mature adult. Developmental psychologists tend to focus on the period after birth and the set of influences that can be studied psychologically. As a general rule, we can say that at each and every stage of development further change is a product of psychological processes operating at the existing level of development along with information that is provided in the environment. Acritical point is that the information input that is available at any stage of development will depend on the level of understanding at that stage. For example, information relevant to understanding the emotion of pride is meaningless to the child who has not yet acquired a concept of the self as an objective entity because pride is premised on the self as the object of one's own and others' admiration. So the child's level of development constrains the kind of information that can be used for...
Wonder and admiration that so much of practical value has already been achieved the treatment of spirochetal infections, syphilis, yaws and relapsing fever, revolutionized leishmania infections, kala-azar and Baghdad boil and bilharzia infections which crippled the health of whole populations in countries such as Egypt, now made definitely curable trypanosome infections, such as the deadly African sleeping sickness, after years of alternating promise and disappointments, brought now at last within the range of effective treatment.
Charismatic leaders have a knack for taking their vision and making it the vision of their followers. How they do this has intrigued students of leadership for generations. Theories and explanations abound for why and how leaders possess or attain personal charisma (Yukl, 1998 Kouzes and Posner, 1995). Certainly, it is a trait that most leaders desire, because charisma is often the something that propels a leader from brilliant to beloved, from innovative to infectious. If there is a catalyst that facilitates a reaction in the face of adversity or challenge, charisma may very well be it. One theory, that of Meindl, attributes charisma to the phenomenon of social contagion. That is, in the face of crisis, people will normally seek out a leader who speaks and acts heroically. This leadership trait is attractive, perhaps because of the need to identify with someone who exemplifies mighty, even self-sacrificial aspirations that the followers themselves may be...
Contact between bands may have been tense and brief, with the threat of violent confrontation balanced against the possible benefits of trade, gossip, and the exchange of sexual partners. Selection would have favored a capacity for very fast decisions about which individuals were attractive enough to pursue. These snap judgments could have been based on information like physical appearance, bodily ornamentation, apparent social status, and public display behavior (such as sports, music, and story-telling). Our ability to judge the physical attractiveness of a Although sexual decision-making can itself be fast and efficient, it sometimes takes time to acquire the relevant information about a potential mate. If a woman is interested in assessing a man's personality, intelligence, and experiences, it may take weeks of conversation before she has (unconsciously) gathered all the information she needs to fall in love. As we shall see in Chapter 10, conversations during courtship are how we...
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Doug Wallace is an energetic, charming academician, whose glasses give him the look of an absentminded professor. In person, he proves to be a charismatic personality and an eloquent, forceful speaker, although he does have his quirks. The dashboard of his Volvo S70 is home to a pair of yellow and blue plastic nudi-branchs a kind of ocean-going mollusk that looks like a slug after a team of Pixar animators decided to color it in shades of bright neon. Wallace laughingly refers to the pair as Slugworthy One and Two.
A gradual but sustained penetration of modern notions of mental illness has occurred, even in remote parts of the country. The growth of communication media and the easier access to those remote areas have contributed to this. Likewise, the use of medications (particularly major tranquilizers, anxiolytics, and antidepressants) is a noteworthy factor in the process. The figure of the doctor enjoys universal respect, admiration, and a sense of dependency that may contribute to acceptable degrees of medication compliance. However, this is not a generalized phenomenon, and poverty, inaccessibility of services, lack of professional attention, and chaotic administration of health programs make the follow-up and ultimately the prognosis of mental illnesses somber or, at best, uncertain (Alarcon 1990).
Are occasionally fatal, and some have damaged and altered physical appearance. Note that these side effects are not unique to HIV disease many other illnesses and their treatments produce changes in appearance. Drug cocktails that comprise protease inhibitors now considered to be the standard treatment for infected patients who are both sick and healthy have caused many to suffer liver damage, kidney failure, strokes, kidney stones, heart attacks, and other devastating side effects that are deemed inevitable by advocates of the new antiretroviral treatments but called horrific and unnecessary by opponents. The jury is still out as to whether protease inhibitors have helped more people than they have hurt. To date, the people for whom benefit has been proved beyond a doubt are really sick people who would have died without them. opponents note that the target population for the drug therapy are those who are still healthy and question the extent to which these people will have their...
But to what extent do we really expect, or should we expect, our children to be like us Physically, it is quite clear that children tend to resemble their (genetic) parents more than they resemble randomly chosen humans, and its reasonably clear that they tend to physically resemble their genetic parents more than they do random individuals chosen from among their particular social geographic locality. But quite often, even when children physically resemble their parents more than they do the population in general, they still don't resemble their parents very much. Having a child that shares (half of) your DNA does not guarantee that the child will look very much like you obviously, children often differ physically from their parents in ways we find significant. This is not to say that being the genetic parent of a child doesn't alter the probabilities of particular kinds of phenotypic outcomes - clearly it does. If it didn't, some of the cases of the 'wrong' embryo being implanted in...
A further problem can be physical appearance. After my initial operations I was left with gross unilateral facial palsy. The grafted nerve took almost two years to function adequately but I still have significant facial nerve and eye problems. This undoubtedly lowers confidence and hinders developing relationships.
Social isolation also resulted from the stigmatisation of the patient by others, and the growing sense of alienation that ensued. Patients repeatedly complained that other people had ceased both to see them and to treat them as 'normal', particularly when the progression of their disease (or its treatment) affected their physical appearance. Such a phenomenon is highlighted particularly graphically in anecdotes provided by Anne. Anne's bodily appearance had deteriorated significantly after she became unwell. She originally developed a malignant melanoma, and had brain surgery to remove the tumour, followed by chemotherapy. As a consequence, her hair had become very thin and had not grown back fully where the surgery had been performed. The cancer had also spread to her liver, causing mild jaundice. Due to increasing weakness and lethargy, she had to walk with a stick.
What I had reacted against and totally hated and rejected was not only her physical appearance, but also her values and world view, her stinginess, her total selfishness, her lack of love for anyone else in the world, even her own husband and children . . . her assumption that anyone was wrong who disagreed with her, her lack of concern for her grandchildren, her lack of friends, her sloppiness and dirtiness, her lack of family feeling for her own parents and siblings. . . . I've always wondered where my Utopianism, ethical stress, humanism, stress on kindness, love, friendship, and all the rest came from. I knew certainly of the direct consequences of having no mother-love. But the whole thrust of my life-philosophy and all my research and theorizing also has its roots in a hatred for and revulsion against everything she stood for. (p. 958)
Before this could be achieved, however, the personal relationship between Freud and Jung was disrupted. There were intellectual disagreements, to be sure Jung felt that Freud overemphasized the role of sexuality in his theory and underestimated the potential of the unconscious to contribute positively to psychological growth. However, it was a personal conflict as well as an intellectual one (Goldwert, 1986 Marcovitz, 1982 Stern, 1976), part of a mid-life crisis in which Jung withdrew from his academic pursuits and devoted himself to introspection. His own personal conflicts, explored in this period, have been interpreted in terms of fragmentation of the self. Jung himself described his two personalities (Rosen, 1996). In Jung's case, this dissociation did not lead to the pathology that such splits sometimes produce (Ticho, 1982). Jung believed that Freud's emphasis on maintaining his authority prevented him (Freud) from dealing fully with his own unconscious conflicts, while Freud...
A grandiose self is part of normal, healthy development, based on a desire for merger with omnipotent caretakers, whose admiration is sought. A healthy, integrated self structure will be formed if the adults respond empathically to the child. If less than optimal parenting is available, the child will construct an idealized parental imago to support the grandiose self.
Nothing will be learned that is not observed. People who have difficulty remembering names, for example, often simply don't pay attention to them in the first place. Several characteristics of the model and of the observer influence modeling. Models catch our attention more when they look distinctive because of their clothes or other aspects of their physical appearance, when they are liked or disliked, and when they are seen repeatedly, as advertisers well know. All these are examples of attentional processes. Characteristics of the observer, too, influence attention, including sensoiy capacities, arousal level, motivation, perceptual set, and past reinforcement.
Whether we develop a sense of self through relationships (as many current theorists, including relational theorists, believe), or whether the sense of self comes first and relationships follow (as Freud proposed), in either case too much focus on the self gets in the way of healthy relationships. An unhealthy self-focus and self-admiration constitutes narcissism. In less than one in a hundred people, narcissism is severe and impairs the person so much that it can be diagnosed as a mental disorder, narcissistic personality disorder (American Psychiatric Association, 1994). People who suffer from this disorder are extremely self-focused they don't have much empathy for other people's experience. Their sense of being special, that they deserve attention and admiration, leads them to use other people as admiring audiences and supporters, instead of as separate individuals. Narcissistic students tend to overestimate the grades they will receive (Far-
Maslow's philosophy of science and his research methods are integral to an understanding of how he arrived at Ins concept of self-actualization. Maslow (1966) believed that value-free science does not lead to the proper study of human personality. Maslow argued for a different philosophy of science, a humanistic, holistic approach that is not value free and that has scientists who care about the people and topics they hivestigate. For example, Maslow was motivated to search for self-actualizing people because he idolized and greatly admired Max Wertheimer and Ruth Benedict, his two original models for self-actualization. But he also expressed affection and admiration for Abraham Lincoln, Eleanor Roosevelt, and other self-actualizing people (Maslow, 1968a).
Erik Homberger Erikson (as we now call him) was born near Frankfurt, Germany, in 1902. He was raised by his mother, who was Jewish and of Danish ancestiy, and his stepfather, a Jewish pediatrician whom his mother met when she sought care for 3-year-old Erik. Erikson did not know that he was conceived illegitimately, and he believed that his stepfather was his biological father and was given his last name, Homberger (Hopkins, 1995). His biological father, a Danish Protestant, had left his mother before he was born, but Erikson's mother had not told him about his biological father. Erikson was not accepted as fully Jewish because of the physical appearance that was the legacy of his Danish parents tall, blonde, and blue-eyed. Yet he hadn't been raised to think of himself as Danish. This somewhat confused background contributed to his own keen interest in identity, as he later said.
Hey mastermind our lives, influencing our physical appearance, Within the last 150 years, biologists have banished much of the mystery surrounding several geneses that dominated theological and religious discourse for millennia the development of an individual organism (from a fertilized egg) the dawn of the human species (from a common ancestor with the great apes) and the beginning of all self-perpetuating life (from inorganic materials in a primordial earth). Imagine that a traditional religion had demonstrated convincingly, rather than merely asserted, the nature of these awesome happenings. Surely that would be a powerful religion, one worthy of widespread attention and admiration. Yet science has not always received such respect, and many continue to operate as though science were an adversary rather than an ally in attempts to decipher the context of our existence.
Relatively little research has been conducted on giftedness and talent in the social-emotional domain, partly because it cannot be assessed through pen and paper methodology. Thomas Hatch has written about these skills among kindergarten-aged children at play and argues that children with interpersonal and social skills are the leaders and diplomats of the playground. They have talents for responding to the thoughts and feelings of their playmates and can regulate their own desires and impulses. These children organize groups, mediate conflict, have empathy, and are team players. Similarly, Alain Schmitt and Karl Grammar argued that the most socially skilled and successful children are not simply the most cognitively complex ones, but rather those who know how to produce the most desired and often simplest outcomes. When people are talented at social-emotional intelligence, they may become leaders or well liked by peers, but they seldom win awards and talent recognition contests...
Algorithms and programs are also under development to find a relationship between the activities of proteins and peptide homologues and the characteristics of some regions in the primary structure of these molecules. Such programs may also be useful to find correlations between peptide physicochemical properties and immunogenicity and as a tool to improve some properties of the protein.131 The final product should be tested for physical appearance, native protein structure, and bioassay. Several membrane translocalizational signals (MTSs) have been identified, and these pep-tide signals, typically 9 to 30 amino acid residues long, have the capability of crossing the plasma membrane and could potentially be used as delivery vectors for other drug molecules.132,133
In the United States, the striving for these goals is usually viewed with admiration. Compulsively aggressive people, hi fact, frequently come out on top in many endeavors valued by American society. They may acquire desirable sex partners, high-paying jobs, and the personal admiration of many people. Horney (1945) said that it is not to the credit of American society that such characteristics are rewarded while love, affection, and the capacity for true friendship the very qualities that aggressive people lack are valued less highly.
ChAT is a crucial ingredient in the chemical process that produces acetylcholine, a neurotransmitter linked to learning and memory. There has been a link between this change in neuro-chemical activity, changes in memory loss, and the physical appearance of Alzheimer brains (especially in the number of plaques).
The idea that art emerged through sexual selection was fairly common a century ago, and seems to have fallen out of favor through neglect rather than disproof. Darwin viewed human ornamentation and clothing as natural outcomes of sexual selection. In The Descent of Man he cited the popularity across tribal peoples of nail colors, eyelid colors, hair dyes, hair cutting and braiding, head shaving, teeth staining, tooth removal, tattooing, scarification, skull deformations, and piercings of the nose, ears, and lips. Darwin observed that self-adornment, vanity, and the admiration of others, seem to be the commonest motives for self-ornamentation. He also noted that in most cultures men ornament themselves more than women, as sexual selection theory
Leadership is something that you do rather than something that you are, yet I suspect most people believe that leaders are born and not made and that, furthermore, charismatic heroes existed in history. They might therefore believe that in smaller environments there must be those imbued with smaller versions of these skills of leadership and equally those that are bereft of them. Historians have searched for the skills that mark out great leaders from other mortals and no biography is complete without that sort of analysis, but the skills do not seem to be common between leaders. Modern social science fashion takes the antiheroic view that leadership depends more on context and is dependent on the character of the followers and the particular situation to hand rather than to any special powers that a leader might have. Churchill, for example, was an excellent wartime leader but an unremarkable peacetime leader. Leadership in the powerful, directive sense is simply unfashionable in...
Extraverted feeling people use objective data to make evaluations. They are not guided so much by then subjective opinion, but by external values and widely accepted standards of judgment. They are likely to be at ease in social situations, knowing on the spur of the moment what to say and how to say it. They are usually well liked because of their sociability, but in then quest to conform to social standards, they may appear artificial, shallow, and unreliable. Their value judgments will have an easily detectable false ring. Extraverted feeling people often become businesspeople or politicians because these professions demand and reward the making of value judgments based on objective information (Jung, 1921 1971).
Tests are relative, and should be proportioned to the various classes of society. All things considered, it should be arranged so as to create admiration and surprise. It is a dynameter, the power of which should increase as we ascend in society. The test for a householder in La Rue Coquenard, would not suit a second clerk, and would be unnoticed at the table of a financier, or a minister.
One of the best examples of the relationship between the prefrontal cortex and personality is in the unfortunate example of Phineas A. Gage, who was injured when a three-foot iron rod pierced his skull during an explosion in 1848. Incredibly, he did not die, but his left frontal lobe was destroyed when the bar entered the skull. Before the accident, he had been a well-liked, calm, and steady worker, but afterward his friends noticed extreme personality changes. He became deeply disagreeable, tactless, profane, and restless. It appeared that a sort of civilizing influence over his personality had been lost when his frontal lobe was obliterated. Interestingly, alcohol appears to mimic this type of prefrontal control over behavior because intoxication can lead to similar personality changes such as increased profanity, vulgarity, aggression, and loss of sexual restraint.
An orthopedic nursing unit was in the process of changing to a team approach to patient care when the unit supervisor resigned. One nurse, Leslie, who had worked on the unit for five years, expected that she would receive a promotion to unit supervisor. The position was instead given to a new nurse, Carol, hired from a different facility. This decision was made because Carol had evidenced innovative thinking in her former position and had played an active role in implementing the team care approach. Leslie, who was well liked and respected on the unit, sabotaged every effort Carol made to implement changes. She also began to create allies among the nursing staff, some of whom were upset by all the changes.
Where chimpanzees evolved moral leadership, humans evolved the more advanced capacity of moral vision, including the passionate articulation of social ideals concerning justice, freedom, and equality. Moral vision is sexually attractive, and may have been generated by sexual selection. It takes the impartiality of the peacekeeping primate to a more conscious, principled level. In discussing such an important human capacity, we must be especially careful to distinguish evolutionary function from human motivation. When Malcolm X used his verbal genius and moral charisma to forge a vision of a Muslim society free of racism, he was motivated by moral instincts, not sexual instincts. His moral instincts happened to attract a beautiful young woman named Betty Shabazz to become his wife, as they had evolved to do through sexual selection. Likewise for Martin Luther, whose Protestant vision attracted the ex-nun Katharina von Bora to marry him and raise six children. The peacock's tail is no...
Nevertheless, there are some hints of sexual ornamentation in the human voice's pitch and timbre, the size of our vocabularies, the complexity of our grammar, and the narrative conventions of storytelling. For example, adult human males have deeper voices than children or women, which may reflect female choice favoring a low-pitched voice as an indicator of large male body size. (A deep voice does not have to correlate perfectly with large body size in order to work as an indicator.) Female frogs prefer lower-pitched male frog calls, and women generally find the deep, resonant voice of Isaac Hayes more sexually attractive than those of the Vienna Boys' Choir. Even in the television show South Park, the sexual charisma of Hayes's voice shows through in his school chef character, who, despite his low job status, credibly says lines indicative of sexual desirability, like Damn, woman, I just gave you sweet lovin' five minutes ago On the other hand, low pitch could also have evolved...
Ecosystem services that provides a useful way of framing a discussion about how we might measure changes in the rates at which they are delivered. The Millennium Ecosystem Assessment divides these services into supporting services and provisioning, regulating, and cultural services. Quantifying ecosystem services on a species-by-species basis is clearly an impossible task, particularly as many of the most important services are undertaken by microscopic species whose taxonomic status is unclear (Nee, 2004). Nevertheless, it is likely that different types of service will predominantly be undertaken by species on different trophic levels. For example, regulating services, such as climate regulation and water regulation and purification will be predominantly undertaken by interactions between species at the lowest trophic levels. In contrast, cultural services, such as recreation and tourism, as well as aesthetic and inspirational services, will often require ecosystems that contain a...
The leader of the campaign effort to pass the proposition was Robert Klein, a charismatic real-estate lawyer and developer from the decidedly upscale suburb of Palo Alto in the San Francisco Bay Area. His interest in the legislation was partly scientific, but also included personal reasons. Klein's teenage son had been diagnosed with insulin-dependent diabetes several years ago, and the therapies derived from stem cells would be a boon to him. Since therapies could be developed with the huge base of scientific talent that California was home to, it made sense that anything speeding up the effort would be most welcome.
Recognition-Status The need to be recognized by others and to achieve status in then eyes is a powerful need for most people. Recognition-status includes the need to excel hi those things that a person regards as important for example, school, sports, occupation, hobbies, and physical appearance. It also includes the need for socioeconomic status and personal prestige. Playing a good game of bridge is an example of the need for recognition-status.
In his or her life situation, each person imagines a better situation than the present. This ideal situation is different for each person. It is an image of the fulfillment of what is lacking at the present time a strong healthy body, if the person is ill a fortune, if the person feels held back by lack of money admiration, if the person feels unappreciated and so forth. Doctors, according to Adler, are often compensating for some early experience with death, trying to overcome it through their careers. Others are directed by a redeemer complex, trying (not necessarily consciously) to save someone, perhaps by entering medicine or the ministry.
A variety of events may trigger such experiences. Sometimes they occur in response to nature sometimes they are religious experiences sometimes they occur during meditation sometimes they are even sexual encounters. Not all self-actualized people are peakers, however, who are more poetic, musical, philosophical, and religious. Non-peakers are more practical, working in the social world through reform, politics, and other real-world arenas. Maslow seemed to have more admiration for peakers, whom he called transcending, than for nonpeakers. whom he called merely healthy (p. 138).
The Power Of Charisma
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